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A Few Myths About Transgender Youth

There’s a lot of misinformation out there about transgender youth

I constantly hear people claim that most transgender youth will grow up to identify as cisgender. This claim is based on studies that followed young people who were referred to “gender clinics.” It turns out, the majority of kids in those studies never actually identified as transgender to begin with.

Many parents referred their children because they were concerned about their cisgender tomboy children, or their cisgender male children who liked feminine things like dolls. Because these kids didn’t identify as transgender to begin with, it’s not surprising that they did not identify as transgender later in life.

Jack Turban MDPsychology Today

To read more of this story, follow the link to Psychology Today


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What’s Happening this week in the Okanagan! Aug 10 – 16, 2020


Tuesday, August 11 – Gender Identity Group ~ Online

This is a positive, safe, inclusive, supportive space for, gender non-conforming, non-binary, transsexual, transgender, gender queer inter-sexed or questioning (or any variation there of under the rainbow spectrum) people living in or near Kelowna or the Okanagan are to discuss matters and various topics while providing and obtaining peer support.

We meet every Tuesday from 6-8 via Discord.

For more information on this group meeting, please join the Gender Identity Group on Facebook.


Tuesday, August 11 – HIM Yoga, 5:30 pm, hosted by Health Initiative for Men ~ Online

Come stretch those knots away and do Yoga with HIM online! Just get your Yoga mat and bottle of water ready!

This session is open to all GBT2Q men living across BC. This is an online event via Zoom App. To register, please follow the link below:

https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZMpduiopjIvG9aIshWI9Elri4mmz_wZXQt4

For more information, please e-mail register@checkhimout.ca.   Attendance is free, or by donation.


Tuesday, August 11 – Voices Unheard, 7pm – 8pm, presented by Rebellious Unicorns, Unicorns Live, featuring James Sieben ~ Kelowna and Online

James Sieben (he/him/his) is a trans gay man. On this episode of Voices Unheard, James will talk with Jessica about how he has experienced misogyny first-hand before coming out, and how he actually now benefits from misogyny because he “passes for male”.

He’ll also discuss how he feels the recent rhetoric about trans people expressed by J.K. Rowling is harmful; the issue of anti-transness in sports; and why all cis LGBT2Q+ people should care about and fight for trans rights.

To find out more, visit the Facebook Event Page


Wednesday, August 12 – Connections Online, 6pm, hosted by Health Initiative for Men ~ Online

Want to expand your social network and connect with other GBT2Q people?
Connections is a group for guys 19+ to come together to talk about life experiences, connect with peers and build a circle of support. Come as you are, bring a friend, and your ideas.

This is an online event via Zoom App. To register, please follow the link below:
https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZIqf–qpz0sHdLaxEPiukVledna87tiA9QD

For more information, please e-mail register@checkhimout.ca.

Participation is free, or by donation


Thursday, August 13 – Life Drawing – Online, 7pm, hosted by Helath Initiative for Men ~ Online

Do you like drawing and sketching? Do you appreciate the male form? Life Drawing with HIM offers a great opportunity to practice your artistic skills with a live male model. It is an informal drop-in session and social art group for men.

All skill levels welcome. This event is facilitated, but no formal instruction is offered. Bring your sketchbook and favourite drawing materials (no ink or paint please). Sessions start promptly, so please arrive on time.

This is an online event via Zoom App. To register, please follow the link below:
https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZMkdumhqj8vHdF06qTaTQlcUBRRWK6lb03q

This group is open to self-identified men (trans, cis, and other men), two-spirit and non-binary folks who also identify as gay, bi, queer, asexual, and/or as guys who are into/or have sex with guys (for any reason – including for work).


Thursday, August 13 – TV Night with Freida Whales, 7:30 pm – hosted by Freida Whales ~ Online

TV Night with Freida Whales lives on as a Digital After Party!! Join Freida Whales after each episode of Canada’s Drag Race, right up to the finale on September 3! Freida will give her thoughts about the episode, watch a video or two, and play a unique drag related game, where you can win a Bucket-O-Whales prize pack and the exclusive TV Royalty episode winner pins!!

The health and safety of the pod is Freida’s highest concern, but we can still have some fun together while staying indoors and COVID-safe! Tune in every Thursday at 7:30 p.m. LIVE on YouTube

Missed the live stream but still want a chance to win the prize? Keep an eye on Freida’s social media for the link to the posted stream and play the game up until the week’s deadline!

Or catch up by checking out Www.freidawhales.com/links


Thursday, August 13 – Drag Race Viewing, 7:30 pm – 9:00pm, hosted by Sparkle and Friends of Dorothy Lounge ~ Kelowna

The grandest of all – Canada’s Drag Race – is here! and what’s better than enjoying at the Okanagan’s first LGBT2Q+ lounge. #Pride
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Join us every Thursday, starting July 2nd, at 7:30pm for a very special viewing of the show hosted by the ravishing Sparkle.
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The race to the crown is going to be – Hot. Feisty. And Delicious with our 12 Drag Race inspired bites named after the 12 contestants. #YummyinMyTummy

Featuring one complimentary Drag Race inspired bite from the menu every Thursday night during the viewing. And 6 bites for $15.
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And it gets better. Our “Canadian” pizza named after one of the judges, Brooke Lynn Hytes, will be at a special price too.⠀⠀⠀
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Call us at (236) 420-4565 to make a reservation.

To find out more, visit the Facebook Event Page


Sunday, August 16 – Drag Brunch, hosted by Friends of Dorothy Lounge ~ Kelowna

Get ready for a #SundayFunday. The drag is here!

Come out and see a show at Friends of Dorothy Drag Brunch (by reservation only). Seating begins at 11am followed by the performance at 12pm.

Tickets are $30 per person and include:
One mimosa or one Caesar AND an item from our brunch menu

CALL TO RESERVE! For more info go to: https://www.fodlounge.com/


Sunday, August 16 – TransParent Okanagan Meeting, hosted by TransParent Okanagan

TransParent provides community consultation, advising and advocacy on issues related to families of trans youth. They also operate a peer support network, monthly meetings, guest speakers and a lending library of books, videos and other resources.

TransParent Okanagan meets regularly the third Sunday of every month. To find out more, check out their Facebook Page


Getting to Know TransParent Okanagan


TransParent Okanagan was started by Carrie and Wayne Broughton four years ago when their now 15-year-old son Tor officially “came out” as transgender. They were attempting to find parents and other caregivers who were going through the same things, or who had already negotiated the medical, social, and other challenges that lay ahead of them.

It was important to them that they process their own feelings about the transition separately from Tor. “Because it’s not his job – or any trans person’s job – to teach us,” Carrie says.

They couldn’t find a local group and, as Wayne likes to tell the story, he said, “Oh great. You’re going to start one, aren’t you?” And so Carrie did!

They started out by just meeting people for coffee, sometimes awkwardly looking like they were on a blind date trying to figure out who the person was they were supposed to meet. Sometimes it was just Wayne and Carrie alone in the coffee shop when they were “stood up” – but as Wayne likes to say, that was still a support group.

Eventually, Carrie connected with Trans Care BC (TCBC) and they invited her to come to Vancouver to be part of a parents’ working advisory group where she met lots of amazing parents and grandparents from across BC, some of whom were already doing this work. They also went to Gender Odyssey’s family conference in Seattle for two years in a row and met even more fantastic families and specialists from across North America, and learned so much more.

Fast forward to today, TransParent Okanagan receives grant money from Trans Care BC and supports many families through their monthly meetings, special events, workshops, and their closed Facebook peer support group. Trans Care BC also supports them by providing learning opportunities through connections with similar groups in BC. Carrie, in addition to co-running TransParent Okanagan, serves on their community advisory committee and has worked for TCBC as a special community facilitator for events and issues related to parents and families.

Carrie’s advice on starting your own organization.

“I would ask yourself, why not you? If there’s a need and you have the skills, time, passion, and drive to do the work – your community needs you to step up. Some people are drawn to politics to help change the world; those of us with the privilege of available time (for little or no pay) to act as community organizers are drawn to change the world in another way. Both are needed to create and carry out solutions for community issues. Community organizing isn’t going to get you rich – but it will truly enrich your community and provide you with unimaginable fulfillment.”

The COVID-19 pandemic has, of course, affected the organization. Carrie and Wayne miss seeing their parents/caregivers and families in person but they are finding their way with Zoom. They recently held their first Zoom workshop with a special guest facilitator and had about 20 people in attendance. The feedback they received was fantastic!

The community can support TransParent Okanagan by suggesting workshop facilitators, and special guest speakers, etc who would be interested in presenting to their group. They have grant money set aside for these events and they love to support people who are members of the larger LGBTQ+ community, whenever possible.

Carrie says, “You can also support other families of trans kids by using the correct pronouns and names, and quickly correcting yourself when you make a mistake (It’s okay! We all make mistakes). If you know a family who could use our support, please share this with them.”


Applying the WHO Quality of Care Standards to trans* pregnancy, birth, and postpartum care in Canada

Emily Percival-Paterson ~ Trans Birth Care in Canada

Hello! My name is Percy (she/they), I am from Vancouver Island, and am currently a Master of Science International Public Health (Sexual and Reproductive Health) student at the Liverpool School of Tropical Medicine, in Liverpool, UK. I identify as queer, in sexual orientation and gender identity.

I am pursuing this project as part of my dissertation because I am interested inthe ways trans, non-binary, two-spirit, intersex, and gender non-conforming individuals who are pursuing parenthood via carrying a child experience the Canadian healthcare system. I am interested in the creative ways this cadre of parents work with their care providers to meet global standards of quality of care as well as the areas where birth care providers may need to adapt their practices.


As a member of this cadre of parents, I am hoping to recruit you to participate in this study. Please find below more information about the study and what your participation would entail.

Title: Applying the WHO Quality of Care Standards to trans pregnancy, birth, and postpartum care in Canada
Researcher: Emily Percival-Paterson (aka Percy)
Research Institution: Liverpool School of Tropical Medicine, Liverpool, United Kingdom
Funding: This study is funded by the researcher through a Rotary International Global Grant.
Ethical Approval: This study is subject to ethical approval from the Liverpool School of Tropical Medicine Ethical Review Board.

What do I have to do if I participate?

Data within this study will be collected through 30-60 minute interviews between you and Percy. In order to maintain social distancing safety protocols amongst the COVID-19 pandemic, all interviews will be conducted via either video call or phone call, dependent on your preference. With your consent, Percy will record the interview so they can refer back to it to create a transcript. During the interview, Percy will ask you about your experiences of care from conception through to the postpartum period. Some of the topics are:
● Your gender identity and how it influenced your experience of pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and parenting
● Your experiences of antenatal care
● Your birth experience, including place of birth, types of providers present, and your feelings about the experience
● Your feelings about the care you received in relation to quality standards of dignity, communication, and support.
● Recommendations for birth care providers

You are in charge of your story and how much of it you’re willing to share, therefore if there are any topics which you are not interested in discussing that will be adamantly respected.

What if I change my mind and decide I don’t want to participate?

No problem at all! If during the interview you change your mind, just tell Percy and the interview will be stopped and your recording deleted. If after the interview you change your mind, just contact Percy within the project timeframe and your interview will be deleted. Participating in this study by no means requires you to give up autonomy over your story.

What will happen to my story?

When you sign up for the study you will be given a participant number which will be used when presenting your story so that your identity is kept anonymous. Any identifying factors you mention in your interview will also be anonymized.

You will receive a copy of the interview’s transcript to look over to ensure you are comfortable with the anonymization and the representation of your story. Your story will be considered by Percy in combination with other participant’s stories to identify recurring themes within trans* experiences of pregnancy, birth, and postpartum in Canada.

These recurring themes will then be examined in comparison to the World Health Organization Standards of Quality Care for pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period. This discussion will constitute part of Percy’s thesis work and will be included in their final dissertation submission to the Liverpool School of Tropical Medicine. This dissertation will then be revised and submitted to academic journals for peer review and publishing.

All data collected within the study will be kept under strict protection by Percy and will only be shared outside of the research team via the final publications.

In recognition of your story

Too often academic research has privatized its findings, even from the participants of its studies. Participants in this study will receive the following documents throughout the project:
● Interview transcript with the opportunity to clarify any component and give feedback
● Copy of final dissertation submission
● Copy of any published academic articles

In recognition of your time

This project is funded by Percy through their Rotary International Global Grant, and therefore has a very modest budget. All participants will be offered a $30 thank you honorarium via e-transfer, paypal payment, or e-giftcard. It is incredibly important to value the time it takes to participate in a study such as this, even within a limited budget.

Thank you for taking the time to consider participating in this study! If you have any questions or concerns, want to meet Percy, or are willing to participate please connect with us via the methods below:

By phone: 250-642-5023
By email: transbirthcareincanada@gmail.com
On instagram @trans.birth.care.in.Canada
On Facebook: Trans Birth Care In Canada


Disclaimer: Rebellious Unicorns Production Company Inc, including Kelowna.LGBT, do not vouch for the validity of this study. Potential participants should do their due diligence before participating.